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The wisdom of slowing down.

I knew things had taken a turn for the worse when I noticed on the  shelf  of my local supermarket that you can buy a  marinade that only takes 30 seconds to do the  job.  I felt not a little disappointed, I have to admit. It seemed another step to even more things being done at superfast speed.  No one seems willing to wait, even for meat or fish to marinade.

To my mind the whole nature of marinating something is about giving the combination of different complementary flavours to meet and connect in a significant  way with  whatever  it has  been  splashed  or   brushed  onto.  After a couple of hours when you cook the marinated item the taste is altogether different from either the ingredients that were combined or the meat or fish’s native flavour. The texture is tender and quite delicious- and worth waiting for, if I do say so myself, coming from a long line of marinaders

Maybe you can see where I am going with this. The work we  do at CSA is a mixture  of many ‘flavours’  understanding  self , understanding the  ‘other’, getting sense  of the  whole system, the  energy between supervisee and  supervisor to name  just some. The nuances  of  this deeper way of working and connecting builds  trust  and  confidence so that together  the work of  both supervisee and  supervisor  has  altogether  its own  uniqueness. This is hard to do  without  our full hearted attention as we attune  our inner ear to hear our  own note as much as adjusting to the  other’s music , manner  and meaning. These don’t happen in the blink of an eye. In fact if we rush it we risk losing sight of what a slowing down of our pace can yield.  Shortcuts, quick routes, ‘one click’ service all seem to be pushing us to everything quicker so that we can do even more stuff quicker. Why? We need to sit with the work as an intrinsic piece of the work itself.

There is an often-quoted line about taking time to smell the roses. It is a good line to take to heart before something occurs  to make  us  nostalgic  about the roses we may have  missed  along the way. In truth it is never too late to start paying some slow attention to, especially now in June. Roses are coming into their own pretty soon. You can’t rush a rose outdoors.  It’s worth the wait when they arrive in full bloom.

So what are you doing that could use a little marination right now? A little slower cooking in the coaching supervision vessel? And outside it too.  What if, for even a little time, you went the slow route rather than the fast?  A stroll rather than a race? It can make a nubbly issue a bit more accessible, it may add something that was not there previously enhancing the experience and it must just be a simple pleasure.


Karyn Prentice  Assistant Director CSA