Knowing You – the coachee There are several ways that we can deepen our understanding of the person in front of us. Broadly speaking, we use cognitive, intuitive and somatic data to know our coachee better. All of these functions operate naturally from the moment we first speak with a new coachee; using this data […]
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Relational Coaching (part 2)
Knowing ‘us’ – the relationship When I meet the ‘other’, I enter a field of relational dynamics – some of which will be outside my awareness. Occasionally, coaches can feel intimidated by their coachees. One coach worked through this in super-vision, by first learning about the root of his habitual response to strong coachees. […]
‘Change happens in the crucible of relationship’ B Critchley
Coaches are in relationships every day. Coaches say things like: ‘It’s hard to be objective with him I love working with this client. When she’s angry, I freeze He makes me confused and feel stupid.’ While we are busy creating contracts, coaching leaders or raising performance levels, we do this within a web of relationships […]
Working with the Narcissistic Personality
A few blogs ago, I began to write about working with the Narcissistic Personality. Here’s some more information about how this shows up for coaches and how to approach it. EXAMPLE: Once upon a time, I worked with an executive coach who was deciding how to work with a client whose globe-trotting lifestyle was beginning […]
Disturbing your peace?
In an article I read recently the Bishop of Blackburn is quoted with saying that “education is settling the disturbed and disturbing the settled”. That got me thinking about whether I thought that was a reasonable definition (amongst many others I grant you). A long time ago, a new supervisee asked me to work with […]
Supervision – finding our internal plumb line
I am thinking about what listening is, from a transpersonal perspective, something I talked about the other day on the CSA Diploma in Supervision Training. The extract below captures it perfectly. To me it says something about how, as Coach Supervisors, it is so important to go inside a bit deeper and to listen out […]
Psychological Contracting
Psychological Contracting – Leanne Lowish Last year, I ran a teleconference call on psychological contracting with the current students on CSA’s Diploma in Supervision course. It was based on a chapter written by Michael Carroll and in it he says that: ‘Individuals bring to their contracts and agreements their own assumptions, beliefs and expectations most of […]
Unexpected Gifts
You know how it happens sometimes. You go looking for a particular reference and come upon something else, totally unexpected, and it’s a little gift. That’s what happened to me this morning. I got two gifts in fact. I was asked to check a document for someone and there was a short quote from Maya […]
Narcissism – what’s that!
I am currently finishing an article on how some of our clients – often the most successful ones – have a particular blindness regarding their behaviour and the enormous pressure they put on themselves and everyone around them. “Narcissism includes the inability to accept failure and it brings with it a marked need for power […]
Coaching Supervision: Self-Reflection and Lessons from Nature
It is amazing what insights emerge when we give ourselves time to notice and open our hearts to the work we do with others! This is what struck me when out walking on a beautiful dry, crisp, clear and sunny afternoon as I reflected on a piece of supervision I had recently held with a […]